This Monday we’re talking unearthing the EX-Files when you’re married and whether or not that is a pandora’s box that should or should NEVER be explored.
And so without any further ado here is The Sugar Daddy’s take:
Discussions about ex-girlfriends is a topic full of minefields. When this topic is brought up it has to be done with the attitude that there was a reason why these are ex-girlfriends. When a woman is brought up any comparisons must be done with the confidence that your CURRENT relationship is stronger than any of these ex-girlfriend’s strong assets. Then and only then can discussions about ex-girlfriends take place.
Unfortunately this topic can lead to comparisons and if there are any insecurities one of the partners may have this can exacerbate that insecurity. It is for this reason that this topic should be avoided in a relationship. It is very similar to discussions of fantasy partners with famous or people we know. These discussions have a lot of potential for bringing out jealousy.
As a husband, personally, I prefer to discuss how my wife and I can improve our relationship, avoid comparisons to other people currently known or in our past and focus on the strengths of our relationship and not try to change our partners or compare them.
Your turn: Is it ever okay to unearth the ex-files once you’re married?