Scenes from a Marriage: Can a husband and wife survive planning a bat mitzvah without DRIVING EACHOTHER CRAZY? Cue The odd couple music…

We knew this day would come. But my husband and I are both major procrastinators. My husband more so than me- he’s the type of guy, who waits till he casually bumps into a neighbor to ask a question- as opposed to just ringing their doorbell- and just flat-out ASKING his question- because in these FRIGID NYC temps, all of my neighbors are just taking long leisurely walks outdoors every chance they get .. but I digress.

So here we are planning our daughter’s bat mitzvah. Which, for all intents and purposes is just a big ole glorified birthday party- but it is also that crucial point in  her life one in which she will take stock of who she is and where she is headed (in a speech she keeps asking ME to write for her– NOT HAPPENING). And as we  get into the GRITTY part of planning a kosher bat mitzvah at a hall I have VISIONS of my older sister Martyne Greenblatt in her Gunne Sax dress celebrating her bat mitzvah in our row house basement drinking out of a garden variety no-frills white plastic cup and I just remember how happy she was and how happy we all were with so.much.less. But lest you think I am hiring Cirque De Soleil to fly in a trapeze and breath fire for my guests- I’ll have you know I am doing EVERYTHING I possibly can to keep costs to a minimum and to remember this is a party for kids- this is not my Quincenera!

But here we are in 2013- and the bat mitzvah scene is a whole different beast and so if you’d humor me I’d like to regale you with just a few of the interactions behind the closed doors of my marriage as I plan and try to keep it all within a reasonable budget.

ON THE GUEST LIST:

The husband: Who is the X family?

Me: She is my friend.

The Husband: So why have I never heard you mention her name?

Me: Well lucky for you – you will have the pleasure of making her acquaintance at the bat mitvah.

On the Menu:

The husband: Do we really need to give the kids appetizers?

Me: Would you prefer they ate their napkins while waiting for their entree?

On the clothing:

The husband: I don’t need to buy a  new suit. I’ll just wear one I already have.

Me: That’s fine- but don’t expect to be in any family pictures with your broken down threads.

I could go on and on- and invite you to listen to every.single.one. of these interminable exchanges- but I’ll spare you. My one word of advice for my husband- BEND OVER….

Comments

  1. says

    This is so funny – one of my BFFs is planning her daughter’s as well, and she REFUSES for it to be a mini wedding. . .but apparently there are special DJs and “Party Enhancers” and all sorts of “stuff” out there. . .so I send lots of prayers and clinking wine glasses! LOL

    Hillary

  2. says

    Ha! Even the best matched couples can butt heads planning an event. I think that’s probably the real reason behind weddings – trial by fire, if you can plan a wedding together then you just might make it!

  3. says

    It is always funny how many things a couple will not see eye to eye on when it comes to party planning. Ugh. It sounds like your party will be lovely no matter what though.

  4. says

    haha oh you are cracking me up so much right now! My husband is the type that says I don’t care do what you want but after I do what I want he then throws in an opinion. Makes me want to smack him half the time.

Leave a Reply

Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *