I love my sugar daddy, madly, desperately and passionately. But I also realize now, at almost 39, something I didnâ€™t really consider at 25 when I was marrying a 40 year old man; that this age difference will be a factor, simply because no matter how young at heart we feel the physical body is its own beast that ages (and dies just a little) every day.
That’s right- my husband is 54, aka, he’s eligible for AARP, most of his friends have kids who have already graduated college and some who are even getting married. He’s middle-aged- and while when I look at him and his graying temples and the deepening furrows in his brow- I love him all the more- physically he is not on par with that of a 38 year old man (or woman). He just doesn’t have the energy that I do- and while I’ve never felt our dramatic 15-yearÂ age difference before, recently I have and it just makes me wistful ( and wondering how my life would be different had I married someone my own age).
Donâ€™t get me wrong- the man is in really good shape- he goes running everyday and even takes cholesterol medicine ( sheesh my husband takes cholesterol medicine) . And he can run circles around me… but when the clock strikes 6pmÂ heâ€™s ready for bed (yes he’s an early bird special enthusiast) and well I’m not. And getting him to go out and party into the wee hours of 10pm on a weekend night, well itâ€™s a struggle to say the least. I know itâ€™s not that he doesn’t want to- rather his internal clock just doesn’t work well at that time in the evening- and at almost 39 mine is a RARING to go.
But I get it– this is my marital tradeoff- I married someone older as opposed to my own age because heÂ possessed a maturity level that I simply couldn’t find in someone my own age. (When I got married at 25 years old,Â my husband who was 40,Â was still good to go after 10 pm!) I married someone who was ready to settle down and start a family and be as hands on a father as I could possibly hope for. And I donâ€™t regret my decision at all- I know itâ€™s part of my path- and I love my husband- I just wish- every once in a while- he could stay up past 10pm…
So, what’s your marital tradeoff?!