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On December 19th my husband and I celebrated our 18th year of marriage and that only meant one thing….I’ve spent the last 18 years sleeping, in the biblical sense, with the same man. And while at this point I couldn’t imagine doing his signature counter clockwise swirl with any other male- let’s put it this way- our sex life while adequate does not include: swinging from the chandelier, donning furry handcuffs dripping hot wax all over one another’s erogenous zones.
I hate admitting that at times I’d rather be playing Scrabble than having sex with my husband, and that watching paint dry is at times infinitely more exciting than my married sex life. I think ultimately the bottom line is it’s challenging to keep one’s married sex life as titillatingly fresh as that dating and newlywed sex you and your partner once engaged in. More than anything I want to chuck my take-one- for-the-team attitude and really begin to think more in terms of the phrase Carpe Diem when thinking about having sex with my beloved husband. And While it is wonderful that Valentine’s Day is the one day a year that we are encouraged to take our romance up a notch I would love to keep that romantic cheer going all year long!
So I’ve called in the big guns to help both you married ladies out there, as well as myself, take your married sex life up several notches so that hopefully from here on in- sex with your husband will be more akin to “rockets red glare and bombs bursting in air” as opposed to you know, that whole paint drying phenomenon that tends to characterize what’s happening in your bedroom these days. Keep reading for some fun and practical ways to keep that romance going 365 days a year thanks to sex & relationships expert Dr. Laura Berman and a fun giveaway from K-Y Yours + Mine!
#1 Rather than make sex a big occasion where you pull out the stops once or twice a year, make an intention to simply focus on performing an intimate act each week. It could be intercourse, it could be oral sex, it could be parallel play. Just don’t wait for a special occasion or until things are ‘perfect’. Life is imperfect, and sex can be imperfect too.
#2 It is never the ‘wrong’ time to share your love with your partner, but when you only do so on special occasions like Valentine’s Day or your anniversary, your significant other might feel as though you are just going through the motions. A dozen roses on V-Day might make them smile, but imagine how much more excited they would be to receive that same bouquet on a random Tuesday in the middle of a boring week?
#3 That being said, it does not have to be about material goods. When was the last time you complimented your partner? I don’t just mean a passing “you look fine, hon” when they ask you how their new suit looks or if the stylist cut their hair too short. I mean a genuine, whole-hearted compliment where you look into their eyes and share praise, praise that deeply celebrates who your partner is. Not just how they look (although those compliments are great too) but compliments that focus on who they are, on their unique light, on their being.
#4 Quality time can also be a ‘compliment’ of sorts. When you put your phone down and actually LISTEN to your partner, the affect can be quite dramatic. I know that sounds strange, but most of us always have our phones within arm’s reach on date nights or during dinner. Some people even check their phones during sex! When you remove those tech distractions and set an intention to be wholly present on date night or when you are alone with your partner, you are sending a powerful message: You are important to me. You matter more than anything. I am here. I am with you. Being here now is my priority. Loving you is my privilege. When you commit to making gestures like that part of your daily relationship, you will do untold good for your bond, your emotional well-being and your sexual connection.
#5 And the most important piece of advice to keep the romance going 365 days a year -don’t forget to think of your bedroom as a sanctuary, a place that you escape to an oasis and just have fun! When you turn your bedroom into an oasis for romance, you’ll find that you both want to spend more time there together
So how can you make your bedroom feel more fabulous?
Ditch the non romantic clutter. Move the exercise equipment and all traces of work to another room including pics of your in-laws!
Remember to have FUN in the bedroom too–with games like I Dare You cards and 52 Weeks of Naughty Nights aphrodisiacs like CHOCOLATE! And set the mood and light some candles which brings me to You Don’t Need a Reason movement which is all about showing your partner love on any day of the year, not just on particular holidays when we feel obligated.
To bring the movement to life, KY has joined forces with Punchbowl to curate playful and sexy digital greeting cards that help couples keep the spark alive. The cards are FREE and available every day (except Valentine’s Day J) through February 2018. Check them out here.
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