OK I’m going to come clean right here and right now…I AM ADDICTED to the BRAVO HOUSEWIVES franchise. I guess watching this show fulfills my primal need to be a voyeur and get a peek into the lives of others as a means to get some kind of perspective on my own. And based on all the silicone implants, lip plumpers, eye and nose jobs, liposuction and gobs and gobs of money spent like it’s as plentiful as water springing from a faucet, there is a heavy dose of perspective to be gained.
Sure I love to compare myself to these ladies and say, “Oh look at that Camille and her harem of nannies, tsk tsk, or Kyle’s regular and religious visits to her psychic, what a CRAZY way to spend money,” but the truth is I can’t get enough of these ladies and their antics, but ultimately view them no more than anything but mere caricatures of themselves.
However I’ve ALWAYS harbored a soft spot in my heart for Bethenny, originally cast as a business-building, no-nonsense Real Housewife of New York unlucky in love with major emotional childhood baggage who luckily and quite successfully spun off her own reality show; Bethenny Getting Married which chronicled her real-life nuptials, subsequent pregnancy and all the high jinx that followed. Unlike so many of the other housewives; Bethanny didn’t have the luxury of a gilded childhood and had to fight tooth and nail to achieve her level of success. In other words she’s got a lot of CHUTZPAH!
I have to admit I enjoyed watching her transition into motherhood, all while juggling her entrepreneurial agenda, and tackling real lifeâ€”in other words- what comes after love, marriage and baby in the carriageâ€¦and that ultimately sheâ€™s just like any of us other moms trying to balance it all.
Of course her volatile relationship with her newlywed husbandÂ has always been at the forefront of her show. She has never tried to sugar coat the daily work it takes to keep a marriage afloat. And while I’m sure she has not let the public be privvy to every last intimate detail of her marriage it was painfully obvious she and her now estranged husband had a steep learning curve. (As all of us newlyweds do!)
She has always been depicted as harsh, very vocal and critical while her husband has been bathed in a gauzier light- in my opinion he’s more passive aggressive than her- in other words his quiet attitude is his way of getting back at her. But I really think aside from their personal communication styles- the biggest issue that seemed to face this couple is the discrepancy in their earning potentials. While I have no idea what her husband’s income or job was-Â clearly Bethenny was the spouse holding the purse strings in that relationship. And I think her career and her drive came at a price– ultimately her marriage- in the sense that perhaps her husband was not okay with her being the breadwinner and out-earning him.
What do you think- do you think men can’t be in a relationship with women who make more money than them?