Dates can be incredibly nerve wracking; especially first dates â€” where, essentially, you get only one chance to make a first impression. Agonizing over your hair, your makeup, what to wear â€“ that all goes with the territory. But worrying about your appearance is just one component of first date prep.
Once youâ€™ve decided on your look, thereâ€™s the issue of mental preparation.Â There are certain behaviors that are guaranteed to suck all the positive energy out of the room. Need a hint? Donâ€™t fart! And NEVER use a coupon (including that â€œBuy one get one half offâ€ coupon you just happen to have for the restaurant youâ€™re going to).
Aside from these obvious non-negotiable behaviors, what are some other things you should NEVER do on a firstÂ date? Paul A. Falzone CEO of eLove, offers these 10 things you should never do and on a firstÂ date and why.
#1 Never talk about your ex â€“ pretty self-explanatory. Talking about the ex tells your date youâ€™re either: (a.) bitter, (b.) still hung up on them or (c.) both.
#2 Donâ€™t talk about religion and politics. Most people have fairly strong opinions on both. On a first date, you really donâ€™t want the conversation to get that heavy. There will be a time for those topics if things progress.
#3 Never talk about your salary or your dateâ€™s â€“ again, money doesnâ€™t make for good first date fodder. If youâ€™re talking about how much you make, it could be construed as bragging or complaining. Inquiring about how much your date makes just doesnâ€™t create a good first impression.
#4 Never take calls on your cell phone â€“ put your phone on vibrate and put it out of sight.
#5 No texting â€“ if youâ€™re serious in getting to know this person, they deserve 100% of your attention. In most cases, whatever text youâ€™re receiving doesnâ€™t require a response right that second.
#6 Never expect your date to pay for everything â€“ for many men, itâ€™s a pride thing and they just wonâ€™t let their dates pay for anything. Thatâ€™s fine, but you should always offer. If itâ€™s a first date where youâ€™re just getting to know each other or this is the first time youâ€™ve met in person, itâ€™s not unreasonable for it to be Dutch treat. Whatever you do, do not discuss whoâ€™s paying until youâ€™re ready to pay the check.
#7 Never make future date plans during the date â€“ again, the first date is a chance to get to know each other. Even if the date is going well, do not commit to a second date during the first date. You owe it to yourself to go home and reflect before taking the next step.
#8 Never bring gifts or accept gifts on the first date â€“ yeah, a guy giving flowers on a date is romantic. Itâ€™s also a gesture thatâ€™s much more fitting after youâ€™ve been seeing somebody. A gift on the first date almost begs the question: is this really you?
#9 Never eat or drink to excess â€“ first dates are about first impressions. Stuffing your face or drinking to the point of intoxication does not typically achieve that objective. That doesnâ€™t mean abstention, just moderation.
#10 Never go to the movies on a first date â€“ the idea is to get to know each other. Sitting in a dark movie theater doesnâ€™t lend itself well to conversation. Invariably, the only thing you end up talking about is the movie.
So tell usâ€¦ what are some things you think one should NEVER do on a first date? Do you have any first date horror stories or red-face moments?