Normally when celebrities discuss the nuts and bolts of keeping their relationship intact, I’m the last person who believes that their advice holds any weight or genuine appeal to the average woman like me. In fact I laughed recently as the ladies of the View grilled Meryl Streep for her secret to her long lasting marriage. As Streep, sat slightly dumbfounded for several seconds at a loss for what to say she finally admitted that she had no secrets rather just a lot of good people helping her throughout the years to raise her kids…all of which alleviated one more pressure off her. Whereas most of us regular folk are doing it all…raising our kids, trying to work on our marriages with little to no outside help i.e. someone to bathe our kids so perhaps we can get in more quality one on one time with our spouses without a little person asking for slices of apple, peeled with no skin again the nerve of those kids needing food!
Why do I think Meryl Streep had no secrets for married people on keeping their marriages fresh and long lasting? Because I think so many of these celeb couples are driven and manufactured by their publicists to trump up buzz for their latest film project or reality TV show. I GUESS you could call me jaded but with the demise of so many high profile celeb marriages whose couples earnestly espoused their love and devotion to their union Jennie Garth and Peter Facinelli and the scandal which has rocked that union which was deemed good and solid perhaps I am questioning the authenticity of ninety percent of the celeb marriages currently on the divorce chopping block.
And then there are those couples who while they never legally tied the knot, seemed destined to weather all the usual celebrity marriage pitfalls, Like Johnny Depp and his baby mama Vanessa Paradis. Namely staying out of the paparazzi spotlight and far from the glare of Hollywood and its insidious way of taking two committed people and shattering their union via someÂ sex fueled scandal. Or maybe what it really all boils down to is some very honest statements made by Vanessa Paradis, who has recently opened up about her estrangement fromÂ Jonny Depp. Perhaps being in Hollywood, or Wichita or Minneapolis has no bearing on a marriage and its ability to sustain itself. Perhaps the viability of a relationship all comes down to the participantsâ€™ level of commitment to said union.
Vanessa Paradis recently opened up to French ElleÂ just enough to hint about her feelings after ending a 14-year relationship with the 49-year-old star.
“I don’t have the recipe for happiness, but I think the engine is simply having the desire,” she says. “It’s not feeling obliged or forced or repeating yourself.”
“I hate, for example, whenever you hear someone say: ‘You have work at being a couple,'” she continues. “No, you have to want to be there.”