5 Ways to Make Time For Your Partner Again which includes Dusting off your Netflix Shelfies!

So you’ve been married for some years. You’ve set a budget, you’ve had the fights, the vacations, a pregnancy or two, and you feel like you’ve really settled into the family that you always wanted. But life is busy. You have a house to maintain, a carpool lane to embrace, a crazy work schedule and a social life to try and uphold. With all of your time divided, how much time do you have to dedicate to your relationship, you know the thing that got you here in the first place?

5 Ways to Make Time For Your Partner Again

It’s not surprising if you say very little. That’s just how life goes. The amount of time you can truly dedicate to your relationship waxes and wanes over the years, but it doesn’t mean you should ever fully lose sight of it along the way. Use some of these tips ( which include DUSTING OFF YOUR SHELFIES)  to be able to gain more time and refocus it on your partner, even if you’re already at time suck capacity.

#1 Figure out what you can nix

Every day our schedules grow. We never start over from a clean slate, instead we just pile on the responsibilities and learn how to accommodate one more activity or ask. Take a good look at the schedules that you, your partner and kids are upholding and see what can be cut. There’s bound be something in there that you don’t truly enjoy and are doing simple to appease someone or something. Get rid of it and dedicate the time you used to spend on that activity with your partner. You’ll also feel lighter and happier knowing you don’t have to do something that you didn’t want to do.

#2 Stop saying, “Yes” all of the time

Don’t join the HOA just because someone asked you to or agree to making 150 cupcakes for your kid’s end of year celebration if you don’t have the time. Saying yes all the time will eat away at your free time and your sanity. You’ll be more stressed out, more likely to snap at your partner and kids and a whole lot less likely to actually spend any quality time with them. Learn to say no more often and yes only to the important things. You’ll find that you have more time on your hands when you’re not face deep in a bowl of batter until 2am.

#3 Don’t let intimacy get pushed to the back burner

Coming home and being intimate with your partner can almost seem like a chore after a long day, but don’t let your mind drift that way. Sure you don’t have the time or energy to get it on every night of the week, but aim for once or twice, even if it’s just quickies. That time together will help the two of you feel closer and bridge the gaps when you truly don’t have the time to sit down and talk. Be sure to throw in some surprises along the way to keep things new, like showing up with some new lingerie.

#4 Create a new night time routine aka Dust off your Shelfies!

While you spent last year shuffling the kids to hockey games, helping solve their quadratic equations and giving the little ones their baths, you probably missed episodes – if not full seasons – of some great shows. Did Olivia kick Fitz to the curb on Scandal? Who’s rocking the break room on Grey’s Anatomy? Just how long is Rick’s beard now on The Walking Dead? With full-blown fall premiere season upon us, now’s the time to grab your boo and glass of wine (or just grab the wine!) and dust off your shelfies. What’s a shelfie you ask? They’re the shows you’ve been wanting to watch but they’ve been sitting on the virtual shelf because…well, because you’re a parent and who has the time? Need some shelfie suggestions? Check out the great library of fall shows you can stream this month on Netflix. The top three on My boo’s and my shelfie list?

#1 Once Upon a Time

Dust off your shelfies and make time for your partner!

#2 The Blacklist

Dust off your shelfies and make time for your partner!

#3 The League

 5 Ways to Make Time For Your Partner Again

#5 Designate date night

It seems almost silly to have to pinpoint a night of the week or month that you’re going to dedicate to each other, but it’s not going to happen if you don’t do it. Decide how often works for you and pick the night the date will happen each week or month and then stick to it. It doesn’t mean you have to go out and spend a lot of money. You can stay around the house, drink wine and watch a movie. The only thing that matters is that you are promising to spend the entire night with each other, focused on one another. Be sure to keep the night alive even when you’re at your busiest.

Do you have any tried and true tips that have worked for you and your partner?

This post is part of my ongoing relationship as an an ambassador for Netflix ‘s #StreamTeam but as is always the case all opinions expressed are my own.


  1. says

    Actually, not bad advice at all. Some of this I’ve heard before, but I think my husband and I both need to nix some things and work on together time each day, even if it’s just a short amount of time. Thanks!

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