Yesterday I went to this fascinating event formerly known as the BOOM BOOM ROOM and currently as The Baby Issue. It was a Manhattan hotel room filled to the BRIM with everything and anything a knocked up or mama to a lil one could ever need or want. AS I’m hustling through the space, to try and make sure I get the deets on all these incredible products- I happened to eavesdrop on some 22 year old editors – who interestingly enough work for BIG NAME PARENTING mags and yet not only don’t have any kids but apparently based on their convo are single and fancy free living it up in the big Apple, chatting about this whirlwind date one of them had, had the night before.
As I pretended to be fully immersed in the latest breast pump, while hungrily devouring all the details of this editor’s date which had I’m single,just having a great time and DON’T need to worry if this guy is the ONE,written all over it it had me thinking…if I had the luxury of what I know now after 14 years of marriage under my belt, as an unattached single girl living in the city– what would I say to her. What is that bucket list of stuff I’d tell her to get crackin on before she hitched her wagon permanently that of another. So Of course I decided I needed to make a list– and here it is: 5 things EVERY woman should do before she gets married:
#1 Date guys just because you like them. So simple. If you make a connection, don’t question it- don’t dismiss him because his area code is undesirable. Take a leap- you have NOTHING to lose and every thing to gain. Kiss that boy for hours…because when you are married- kissing kind of takes a backseat to The Main event.
#2 TRAVEL with your girlfriends. If you have dreams of going somewhere– don’t procrastinate- book your flight and go with your girlfriends. Explore every inch of a new destination, drink, flirt with the locals. You can do it— YOU ARE NOT MARRIED TO ANYONE but your happiness. Go to Paris JUST for the Shopping… because chances are when you are married shopping in Paris will not be high on the list of desirable vacations your husband would like to take.
#3 Spend an EXORBITANTÂ amount of money on something you love that is completely selfish. Why? Because you don’t have to explain or rationalize said purchaseÂ to a spouse. The only one who has to agree and like your decision is YOU! So GO CRAZY! That month’s worth of rent completely non sensible pair of stilettos that could be classified as HOOKER HEELS. GET THEM. (Because when you are married you will have *someone* tsk tsking in your ear about the fact that THOSE SHOES are not good for your feet).
#4 Revel in your singlehood and BE SELFISH- see it as your time- instead ofÂ as this albatross around your neck that YOU MUST GET RID OF. While being coupled up is great–it is a different kind of freedom- and you will never again be able to simply be selfish. And everyone deserves to dote on themselves.Â Sleep in as late as you can. Fill your home with as many pink and frilly things as you can humanly stuff into it. Watch marathons of the Real Housewives and The Client List TILL YOUR EYES BLEED.